Anxiety is a normal part of life and can be managed, but it takes time. It’s also contagious so it’s the job of parents to stay calm, think clearly and role model confidence when kids get anxious so that children can learn how to cope with anxiety. Below are some guidelines for helping to ease anxiety in a child’s life. They have been written by Michael Grose.
Calm is created through your words, voice and facial expression. When children become anxious, help them recognise what’s happening. Some kids get angry, some become upset and others withdraw. Work out the pattern for your child and help them recognise when they are anxious.
Accept your child’s anxious feelings. Your child needs to trust that you are with them, and then they will be more willing to let you help them cope. It’s hard sometimes to differentiate between what may be a bad case of negative thinking and true anxiety.
Challenge the validity of your child’s fears and anxiety, using logic and rational thinking. Don’t allow kids to wallow in self-pity. Move their thoughts towards the future rather than allow them to mope around.
Encourage your child to overcome their anxiety through action.
Anxiety is normal, and part of everyday life. However, it can be debilitating unless it’s managed. Anxiety management takes time for kids to learn, but it’s one of those valuable life skills that parents can teach their kids.
Parent Library Resources
There are a number of parenting resources available in the Secondary Campus Library. These resources are available for parents to borrow. One of the latest additions to our collection is Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer’s Raising and Praising Girls and Raising and Praising Boys. It is a practical, common-sense guide which outlines the way boys and girls react to praise. Her insightful tips show parents of girls how to:
- select praise styles that will combat the perfectionism girls are often susceptible to and boost their inner confidence
- encourage their daughters to be creative and take risks
- Teach girls not to fear failure but to accept it and learn from it.
Her tips on raising boys show parents why:
- Boys need regular but small doses of positive feedback to prevent them from becoming distracted or losing focus in their work
- Sons may value their mother’s opinion less than their father’s
- Praise and rewards can be exploited by boys and used as bargaining tools to twist situations to their advantage
I encourage you to access these books. We will be continuing to add to our parenting resources in the College Library.
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